Truthfully… about me

Truthfully… about me

Following from an amazing photo shoot in the NSW Blue Mountains with Sarah Keen of Truthfully, she sent me some of the most interesting interview questions I have ever experienced… this is my essay in reply.

I am an Intuitive Shadow-Walker, Inner-Journey-Guide, Sacred-Space-Holder. But let’s call it what it is: I am a Sh!t-Shoveler (except I bring the excavator instead).

I work with awesome people who have accepted that they are responsible for the problems in their life AND that they are the beautiful and amazing solutions too.

By uncovering their strengths and values through spiritual growth and personal development, I guide them from sinking in overwhelm, confusion, disillusionment, and frustration to living with confidence, certainty, inspiration, and flow.

I am very privileged that my work allows me to connect with people at their very core. Of course, each person chooses – consciously or unconsciously – how they show up and how much of themselves they want to share with me, but even at the smallest level they have to be willing to be seen beyond their masks, otherwise they would never choose to come to me as a client in the first place. 

I connect with a lot of people around the world through Facebook groups; local entrepreneurs through networking events; and friends whom I collaborate and/or bounce ideas around with online and in real life.

Although I am an introvert, I very much experience myself through relationships, so authentic connections are what fill my joy-love-cup up on a regular basis.

I love love love robust juicy conversations about spirituality and all the things that make humans tick – whether referring to world politics, ethical business, parenting ideals, relationship journeys, or anything else, exploring our inner-world is my playground and work-space!

I used to hold a lot of shame and guilt around my actions and feelings which prevented me from sharing authentically, but on my own healing journey I have embodied deep levels of self-trust and integration around my ‘positives’ and ‘negatives’, my strengths and challenges, my gifts and flaws. So now, whether with clients or friends, I am an open book.

I gratefully share about all aspects of my life, especially the ‘darker’ or more challenging topics (such as depression, self-doubt, lack of worth etc), because I feel it is important to remove the stigma and normalise conversing about these issues which affect far more of us than many may realise.

I find most people open up to me readily and are eager to share. Sometimes I do sense that someone is holding back from uncertainty or feeling vulnerable, so I meet them where they’re at and do what I can to help them feel supported from there.

I feel that people share with me because of my personal energy – amplified by the opportunity through the work I do. Clients have told me that it was after meeting me and feeling that they would be safe being vulnerable with me, that they then sought out my services.

Because I sense energy, when I pick up on an incongruence between what people are feeling, saying, and doing, I may (depending on circumstances) gently offer them an opening to go deeper than the surface conversation.

Some people don’t want to go there and I fully respect that. But many times, people feel so relieved to be SEEN beyond the surface that they invite me in and we connect from there.

For example, a mum who is juggling her business and children and feeling unsupported and/or guilty might make an off-hand comment about her partner and/or the stress in her life, and instead of glossing over it (bypassing or placating), I open my heart-energy to her and ask a light question about her place in things, and suddenly she recognises that she doesn’t have to hold the pretence with me and can relax more into herself.… and a whole different conversation ensues.

I love love love when people share their true selves with me. I feel so honoured to be allowed into people’s inner-world, whether through my work or private life.

I have a deep love for humanity and holding space for each person’s greatest potential, so anytime I am offered insight into someone’s personal realm is a true privilege.

The biggest reasons people avoid telling me things are guilt and shame. These emotions colour everything we feel with a deeper level of harm, and I can sense it in the person’s energy when speaking with them.

The great paradox is that most people hide behind their guilt/shame when what they deeply crave is to be seen beyond those masks.

The personal truths that I observe through people’s actions and energy (as opposed to what they say) is mostly around how centred they are within themselves – how connected they are to their TRUE selves – their truth and values, rather than the layers of beliefs they have taken on because of family, society, other influences.

There is a certain crystalline clarity and lightness of being around those who are centred with themselves.

I do love observing others’ interactions, the ‘dance’ of emotions, beliefs, words, and actions between multiple people. The personal truths which show clearly to me in observing this comes down to how embodied they are – how aligned their bodies, minds, hearts, and souls… do they slip in and out of different masks based on who they’re interacting with, or do they remain true to themselves even as they consciously lean in/out of a situation?

Humans are social creatures who can use relationships as a path to understanding themselves… if we go beyond venting and gossiping to true heart-felt conversation.

Being able to share our story – without fear of being judged – is a rare but important part of unpacking our ideas and beliefs. To be supported as we look at each childhood belief which is affecting our life now, and decide what serves us and can be amplified, and what doesn’t serve us and can be healed and released, is profound and life-changing.

This witnessing – having someone understand our pain and celebrate our win – touches us at the deepest part of who we are and how we experience our impact on the world. This is the core of the work I do.

I bring ALL of my true self to my work, because the integrity I stand in directly affects my clients who are inviting me into their energy space.

Unlike what most people may assume, this doesn’t mean that I have to be 100% happy and sparkly all of the time… because emotional authenticity is more important than the emotion itself.

Being centred in my divine humanity (flaws and all) is the most important thing I can do in how I serve others. In this space, my intuition is at its strongest, my mind the clearest, and my heart the most compassionate. And that is what I choose to bring to my clients every day.

I wish for people to recognise the amazing and fulfilling life they can create if they are willing to go on the journey of inner-awareness. This doesn’t mean that challenges don’t happen and everything is unicorns-and-rainbows ever after – but it does mean that their ability to ride the highs and lows comes with greater ease, that they find more joy and peace in all the little things, and that life just becomes so much more freaking awesome.

One of the most important things to understand on the personal development journey is that no one can do the work and find the answers but you. BUT you also do not have to do it on your own. In fact, taking full responsibility for yourself WHILE allowing others to support you creates a synergistic flow that supports healing much faster and deeper.

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2021
Photo: Sarah Keen @Truthfullyau

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Intuition (pt 4) ~ Is it your Ego or Soul speaking?

Intuition (pt 4) ~ Is it your Ego or Soul speaking?

An important part of connecting to and strengthening your intuition is learning to differentiate between your fear-driven Ego and love-inspired Soul.

This is also an essential part of developing your discernment – your ability to know what is your truth, separate and beyond the many layers of influence constantly pushing against you.

 

Your Ego and Soul

Your Ego is formed around your child-self who carries many limiting beliefs and stories, and often tries to keep you safe by having you play small and not take risks.

Your Soul is the eternal part of you that knows, unquestioningly, that you are loved and safe and here to play the big game of life.

When you have travelled on the self-awareness journey for a little while, and come to understand your child-self through compassion and kindness, you will be able to integrate and heal all aspect of yourself.

The more integrated you are, the less divide between your Ego and Soul, and the more centred and empowered you are as a whole being.

Use the table below as a starting point to review with the messages you are receiving, and sense if they are coming from your Ego or Soul… but remember that the nuances of your personal experience is where your truth lives, so pay attention to how YOUR feel and create a more specific guideline for yourself based on that.

 

Ego Soul
asks you to give your power to others asks you to stand in your own power
your social mask your true essence, connected to Source
needs the approval of others to feel worthy doesn’t take others’ opinions personally
uses labels to separate you from others recognises the divinity in others, the connections between all
trapped in time, concerned about the past or future; regret, shame, anxiety, fear always IN THE PRESENT, in the NOW
pushes, has hyped-energy, often running in fight/flight/freeze mode doesn’t rush you, gently guides you with opportunities, gut-feelings

 

Further reading:

Intuition (pt 1) ~ What is it good for?

Intuition (pt 2) ~ Imagination and connection tools

Intuition (pt 3) ~ 10 steps to strengthen your intuition

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2021
Photo: Sarah Keen @Truthfullyau

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Intuition (pt 2) ~ Imagination and connection tools

Intuition (pt 2) ~ Imagination and connection tools

Intuitive guidance

Everything and anything can have meaning and offer intuitive guidance if you’re looking for it.

Intuitive messaging is not about receiving cryptic codes from some mystical or unknown means outside of yourself, but bringing to awareness something that your Higher Self and/or subconscious mind wants you to know right now.

 

Connecting to your intuition

When you first start connecting to your intuition it can feel slippery.

Like trying to grab a leaf floating on top of a pool of water – the ‘reaching’ itself can create waves which push the leaf further away. Instead of grasping, you want to gently put a net under the leaf and raise it, removing it from the water so you can hold it and look at it more easily.

Until you become more familiar and confident in using your intuition, you can use ‘connection tools’ to act as your net.

 

Connection tools

Every day ‘muggle’ items can be used as tools to connect to your intuition. For example, a song on the radio, page from a book, picture in a cloud, as well as those officially designed for this purpose such as Oracle Cards and the Tarot.

 

Your imagination

Sometimes, when linking in to your intuition, you may struggle with doubt and ask “what if it’s my imagination and I’m just making it up?”

Well, the wonderful thing is that your imagination is much closer to your intuition than logic is!

It’s perfectly OK if you’re not certain whether what you feel/know is intuition or imagination – because in playing with either of those, you create more space in your awareness for that which is NOT logic.

In fact, if you are struggling with accessing your intuition, decide to only use your imagination for now – and through that practice release your need for ‘logical facts’.

Then, once you are comfortable with working in your imagination, move on to connecting with your intuition directly.

 

The gift of being connected

The more you work with intuition and your Higher Self, the more your energy strengthens and exists in that space naturally.

Through the natural integration of your intuition in how you interact with the world, you will find it easier to recognise aligned opportunities, act with confidence, and attract the people/resources your desire.

 

Further reading:

Intuition (pt 1) ~ What is it good for?

Intuition (pt 3) ~ 10 steps to strengthen your intuition

Intuition (pt 4) ~ Is it your Ego or Soul speaking?

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2021
Photo: Sarah Keen @Truthfullyau

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Anger is an energy

Anger is an energy


ANGER.

It is powerful.

It is all consuming.

It is discouraged in ‘nice’ people.

Some of us feel we need to ignore it – for us to show anger represents a lack of enlightenment.

Some of us feel we need to tame it – for us it can only lead to confusion and chaos.

Some of us feel we need to overcome it – for us it is the unacceptable loss of self-control.

And in the ‘new (c)age’ era we are told to transform it into ‘light and love’ immediately.

But what if anger serves its greatest purpose by its existence alone?

What if there is nothing to ignore, tame, overcome, or transform?

What if anger’s purpose is to just be felt; inviting us to accept the gifts it offers?

I am not talking about using anger as an excuse for abusing others, or wallowing in it to self-flagellate. These are symptoms of repressed emotions that have turned rancid.

I am talking about raw and immediate anger. The one that lets us know when our personal values have been violated. The alarm-bells when we witness inhumane behaviour right before our eyes. That which takes us to the depths of our shadow-self where we can find new wisdom and fiery energy to motivate us out of hurtful situations.

Anger in its truest form can fuel us without making us burn.

It comes, bright and hot. And it speaks, clear and simple.

Unfortunately, in our inability to just exist with it, we make it something ugly and violating; losing the insight and boundless energy offered by the experience.

 

Here’s something to try the next time you feel triggered or upset:

  1. Pause for a moment before you start acting out the patterns attached to your anger (eg blaming someone, shaming yourself, or numbing it out with food).
  2. Take a few deep breaths and direct your awareness to your heart.
  3. Simply ask yourself “What is this anger trying to tell me?”
  4. Then shhhh… just listen.

If conscious awareness of emotions is a new thing for you, it may take a few tries before your heart trusts enough to share its message and your inner-ears are open enough to hear it. But it’s worth it… because the answers are already within you.

As the great poet Johnny Lydon once said “Anger is an Energy” – so use it wisely!
But then again… ‘I could be wrong, I could be right’.

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2019
Photo: Cupoheld from Pixabay

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Dancing with my (Divine) Self

Dancing with my (Divine) Self

Escaping to retreats in the wilderness or doing workshops away from the interruptions of daily life are powerful ways to break through your personal blocks and find deeper connection with your Divine Self.

But how do you bridge the experience-gap after such an event and apply your new found spiritual connection within the demands of your busy schedule?

Or what if it’s not even possible for you to make such an escape in the first place?

The great news is that you can access your Divine Self through sacred ritual and intentional action, starting where you are right now, using whatever is readily available.

Rituals are a powerful way for you to enter sacred space where you can better connect with your Divine Self. Anything can be deemed sacred just because you decide it is so, and intentional action is when you consciously choose your path and actively work towards it.

Here are three ideas:

  1. Transform something you already do every day into an opportunity to connect to your Divine Self. For example, as you shower in the morning, visualise the water washing over you as a golden light cleansing away all of your worries.

Feel Universal Love fill your body. Take a moment to ask your Divine Self what message you can keep in your heart today and see what comes to you.

  1. Dress yourself to align with the vibration you desire that day. Sometimes you may crave dark colours to help you feel grounded, while other days you need bright tones to lift your energy. Or perhaps you can wear the special necklace your grandmother gave you so you can find strength in her loving memory to support you through a challenging time.
  1. Forgive yourself. One of the biggest sources of disconnection from your Divine Self is your guilt or sense of not being good enough.

You can either do this while in an energised state (eg dancing to your favourite high vibe song) or in a relaxed state (eg when preparing to go to sleep). Once you have become centred in that activity ask yourself “What do I need to forgive myself for right now?” Don’t analyse the answer, but accept the first thing that pops in your mind (it can be as simple as burning the roast or something significant like arguing with a loved one). This is not the time to get stuck in the details but to merely send compassion to yourself, sealing it with the affirmation of “I forgive and love myself completely”.

Bring awareness to your every day habits and see what fun you can have creating meaningful rituals that keep you in touch with your Divine Self. Because life is much better when you work in partnership with yourself.

And bonus points for rocking out with Billy Idol’s “Dancing with myself”… just because.

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2019
Photo: Perlinator from Pixabay

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The gift of holding space

The gift of holding space

‘Holding space’ is one of the greatest gifts we can offer another person.

Whether we are speaking with a friend in need, working with a colleague in a challenging situation, or supporting a client to overcome their obstacles, ‘holding space’ means we create a clearing in our own thoughts and reactions so we can meet the other person where they’re at.

By holding space, we offer others a safe container so they feel heard and seen, without judgement.

Often when we confide in others, or find ourselves in a potentially volatile conversation, there is the fear of being judged or rejected. This automatically creates a barrier as we put up defences to hide our vulnerability and not risk looking foolish.

And so the opportunity for true heart-felt connection is lost… and the very real cost of this (in our families, communities, and business environments) are people who feel isolated, unsupported, and disconnected.

The art of holding space can be achieved through a few simple – yet ego-challenging – steps:

1) Clear your mind and focus on this moment.

2) Give up the need to analyse or fix the other person. Accept that they are on their own path and your role is to hold their hand (and heart) while they face their shadow in the way that feels safe for them.

3) Ask gentle questions to allow the person to unravel the thoughts that roll in, but don’t be attached to the answer – this is not about proving how much you know, or your skills in diagnosing them – but merely witnessing them.

4) If the other person’s story triggers you, breathe deeply and honour your own process without bringing it into their story. This is not the time to compare tragedies to see who is worse off.

5) Offer your compassion without ‘buying into’ their story or agreeing to their version of events because that will only lock them further into a certain perspective, which may not serve them in the long run.

6) There is no ‘goal’ or ‘result’ to strive for. Don’t push the person beyond where they are ready and willing to go themselves. Trust that you are part of a loving process in that moment, and the best you can do is be available when they want to journey further.

7) Be very aware of the role you play so that you are not enabling them in a state of victimhood. If you feel that the person is using your presence as a tool to keep themselves stuck, then step back graciously, release them with love, and help them find more suitable support.

Practising the above steps allows us to be better listeners and more honest communicators, so we can be the best version of ourselves and truly embrace the gifts of our humanity.

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2019
Photo: Skeeze from Pixabay

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No suffering necessary

No suffering necessary

We do NOT have to suffer… before earning the right to happiness.

Or to be deserving of abundance or worthy of enlightenment.

If any ‘guru’ or belief-system tries to convince you otherwise, please embrace your self-loving boundaries and run the other way – fast!

Because suffering is no longer a prerequisite for evolving as a spiritual being or embracing personal joy. We must stop glorifying drama and trauma as the only path to Love.

Most of us experience challenging situations that test us – sometimes a little and sometimes to the edge of breaking – and these most certainly affect the person we become. For those who embrace and transform their pain, they do indeed offer a perspective and connection that can sooth, empower, and heal others.

But to claim that strength and wisdom can ONLY come from those who have suffered sets up a very limiting possibility from which we can live in the world. It leaves us asking How do I know if I have suffered enough? What is the barometer and who am I comparing my pain against to see if I’m worthy yet?

The belief system that we can only grow through suffering also ignores other sources of wisdom:

  • what we have experienced and learned in previous lives
  • divine guidance from sources other than our own physical experience
  • our ability to empathise with others without having to suffer through the same ourselves.

I used to believe in absolute duality, that we cannot know cold without hot, up without down, happiness without sadness… but I know now that it doesn’t have to be that way. These beliefs – so ingrained in many of our cultures, religions, spirituality – once served a purpose of creating contrast as a way for us to understand certain energetic concepts, especially at a time when humanity felt itself separate from Source/God and undeserving of Love.… but that time has passed. We have found our Divinity-Within and know there is an alternative for those who want to take a path of greater peace and ease, because we already ARE Love.

 

So, if you stand in the possibility that you no longer *have to* suffer in order to ‘deserve’, how different would life look?

What happiness would you call forth right now?

What abundance would you readily allow into your life?

What enlightenment would be yours to claim, just because?

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2019
Photo: Artemiss Keyhani

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Dressing up, down or sideways

Dressing up, down or sideways

How we physically present ourselves is a key part of our power, in terms of inviting connections and improving understanding.

It’s all very well to say people shouldn’t judge on appearance alone, but really… who doesn’t?

We judge the person standing near the dark alley – will we be safe walking past him? We judge the person knocking on our door about some cause – do we have anything in common with her and willing to make the time to listen?

This topic came to my attention a few years ago when my children and I joined a peaceful demonstration against a local circus that uses exotic animals in their show. There were about 25 adults and 15 kids of various ages in our group. It was a respectful presence and many of the cars that drove past beeped their horns as a sign of support.

What was most interesting to notice – as I am very much a people watcher – were the looks on the faces of the people who were driving into the grounds where the circus was held. Either they had already bought their tickets or were about to – so were very much the people whose attention we were seeking.

Almost all of us were dressed in what can loosely be termed ‘hippy’ gear (and while I don’t identify myself under this label, the tasselled paisley jacket I wore said otherwise). The people who drove by looked at us en-mass and I could see their dismissive expressions, as if to say “there goes those crazy hippies – not people I relate to” so it was easy for them to dismiss us.

However, two of the ladies in our group had joined us after work and were wearing suit pants and jackets, and the looks they attracted were radically different. I saw many people doing double-takes, as if to say “what are these respectful people doing with the hippies? What have they got to say about this?”

I am not sharing this story to demonstrate my mind-reading skills but because it brings to awareness our need to be conscious of how we are perceived. Does this mean I recommend that we all put on facades or socially-acceptable masks? Feek no! But I do encourage you to be aware of how you present yourself, so that if you are constantly getting a certain (undesirable) response you can then evaluate what is behind it and whether you want to make different choices.

Years ago – after working for myself for many years during which I accumulated a few facial piercings – I was headhunted by a design studio looking for a client manager. As I was preparing to go to the interview a friend asked if I was going to remove my piercings and I said no, because I had consciously decided that I did not want to work for someone who was going to judge my suitability based on a few extra holes. But… I did also choose to dress in a clean professional outfit because I knew it would portray a very different image than if my piercings were accompanied by ripped jeans and a dirty t-shirt.

So it becomes a dance – how do we express ourselves authentically while still being relatable to those we want to connect with or serve?

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2019
Photo: Stux from Pixabay

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Getting my wings

Getting my wings

A few years ago, I was attending regular Lightworkers Development Circles. During one session, the facilitator led us on a visual meditation then suggested we ask Source a question, as specific or general as we wanted, and be open to what came through.

I had been really struggling with my role as Mother for some time – not just daily challenges and bad moments, but intense resentment towards myself for failing at it so badly.

Going into the meditation I asked “how do I step into my power as a Mother?”

Instantly, I found myself on a lush green hill, running with Ms 5 and Mr 2 and laughing with carefree abandon – which is so rare for me. It came to me clearly: I need to allow myself to enjoy them more, every day, in all the little things.

Scene change… I was standing on stone steps – narrow, broken and steep, they went down into a black ravine that I couldn’t see the bottom of. Both sides of the steps were sheer drops – it was like teetering on stilts. I was gripping Mr 2 in my arms and clutching Ms 5 by the hand, so certain that any moment I would misstep and we would plunge into the abyss and there was nothing I could do about it. Absolute terror paralysed me. But suddenly a feeling came down over me – a blanket of peace. My body relaxed and I became unshakably certain that we would be OK, that I had the strength needed to keep us safe and not be lost to the void.

Scene change… we walked into a small clearing and sat in a circle together. At once, huge white angel wings burst from my back – and felt natural as if they had always been there. I wrapped them around my children, cocooning the three of us in a lovely serene space.

The workshop facilitator then told us it was time to come back from the meditation. I had a moment of panic as I thought “how will I pull my kids along as I fly back?” but then as I stood, holding onto their hands, my wings folded back to reveal that both of my children now had their own beautiful white angel wings. The three of us flew up together. And I cried in joy and relief.

I am a human angel. I am courageous and resilient for myself and my children, but I don’t need to fear for them every step of the way because they are very capable within themselves.

I only need to BE with them in joy and love.

 

© Artemiss Keyhani, 2019
Photo: S.Hermann & F.Richter from Pixabay

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